The majority of people who begin this work are not yet ready
to quit using. They are however ready to begin exploring:
Many people who begin this work want to do the following before making a commitment to never using again:
These are realistic and
honest places to begin.
The idea of never using again is terrifying for many. In spite of wake-up calls, it can be hard to imagine a life without substances and this creates a void that can feel unbearable. The primitive mind naturally creates a fear response to any attempt to change hard-wired habits. People who abuse or misuse substances do so for a reason and will continue to fall off the wagon until real change is accepted by the primitive mind.
Addicts or problem users who quit without re-educating the primitive mind, hold on to sobriety by a thin thread, always at the mercy of internal and external triggers. They struggle to present a sober front to the outside world, and in the process, create chaos between long standing programming and potential. Until a new identity is created and connection with potential is re-established, the primitive mind will continue to revert to the mindsets and behaviors of the addict or problem user.
This work is a process that uncovers and heals the parts of the self that made the decision to begin using. The decision to use was imprinted on the primitive mind and was initially a loving intention to sooth the self. This work is a process that heals the chaotic war between what has been programmed and what needs to be strengthen (original potential).
Terri Lee Cooper MSc. RSW