In the last email (email 28)
I offered a simple exercise designed to increase your understanding of
how the subconscious mind operates. I encouraged you to be curious about
the process involved. If we are to become the CEO of our lives we must
be willing to look at the process of learning.
When we ask our minds to become accustomed to something new, we must
realize that we are asking it to learn. The mind will always want to
return to the most familiar way of being and so, patience is required.
Becoming aware of the process is key.
Before we move on in this series I would like to offer you another
little exercise designed to further increase your understanding of, and
respect for the subconscious mind.
In your kitchen, you most likely have a drawer that holds a utensil
tray. You likely go to this drawer regularly. You get a spoon for your
coffee, a knife and fork for your meals, and a range of other utensils
are used when you cook food.
When you need a utensil you automatically go to this drawer without much
thought. In fact, moving to the drawer has become a neurological
hard-wired habit that is engrained in your cellular memory.
I encourage you to take the utensil tray out of its current drawer and move it to a different drawer in your kitchen.
Over the course of the next few days you will begin to become aware of a learning process.
Initially, because of the novelty, going to the new drawer may be easy.
However, you are likely to notice instances when your body naturally
moves towards the old drawer. You may even find yourself opening the
drawer, looking in, and being genuinely surprised to see that your
spoons, forks, and knives are missing!
Sometimes, you may simply place your hand on the drawer, come to
awareness, and remember that you have moved the utensils. Over a period,
you will interrupt your old pattern and remember to go to the new
place. You will begin to form a natural easy habit of going to the
Then most likely the day will come when you are out of sorts and find yourself going to the old drawer once again.
This is often the time when people people say to themselves “damnit! I
will never get this, may as well put the utensils back to their original
However, when we remember that the subconscious mind is a learning
machine we can instead say to ourselves “well, that’s ok. I guess my
subconscious mind is still in learning mode and has not yet fully
associated with the utensils being in a new place.”
Both the chair and the utensil exercise are seemingly small examples
of becoming more aware of the change process. However, they offer us
valuable insights about the mind. Be curious and be willing to
Again, please remember that this series is incremental. Taking the time to review past emails in in your best interest.
Terri Lee Cooper MSc. RSW