a programming standpoint your history is almost irrelevant. A solution focused programming approach asks “what
else is possible?” While challenges or pain are valid, revisiting the past as a
therapeutic approach simply serves to strengthen ways of being that do not
with all professions, each person brings a range of personal experiences and
training into the helping process. The following reflects what I have come to
see as basics truths when it comes to creating long term change.
- The self-image is housed in the subconscious
- The life we are living is consistent with our
self image not our potential.
- The self-image is a habituated response that has
- We will never out perform our self-image until the
subconscious mind accepts and absorbs a healthier one.
reality is that our perceptions of ourselves regulate our lives. Our abilities,
talents, wisdom and purpose are often shamed into the back seat at an early
age. As we grow, the subconscious mind deletes and distorts any data that is
not congruent with the adopted self-image. While innate personality traits play
a role in how our life unfolds, social programming plays a heavy hand.
you think, feel and behave today is a result of your spongy-like mind absorbing
information, from a range of source, during times when you did not have the
capacity to critique incoming data. These times of vulnerability happen in
childhood and adulthood.
we begin to deliberately influence the subconscious mind, we are restructuring
it. The subconscious mind is a learning machine and a servo mechanism. It’s
learning needs must be respected if we are to create lasting change.
self image requires programming. Without programming the subconscious mind will
always return to paths of least resistance. These paths of least resistance can
be found in the thought, feeling and behavior patterns that are aligned with the
self-image. At Hypnosis for Life we refer to these as familiar ways of being or
“cow paths “that run deep.
cow paths block the way to achieving our goals and reaching our potential. If we are not satisfied with our lives we are
not “broken” “crazy” or “incapable” we simply need to make a commitment to installing
In terms of identity
shifts and habit formation, simple hypnosis has short term results for most
people. The stubborn subconscious mind will return to a path of least
resistance, when we are stressed or triggered. This is the lazy nature of the
restructuring is a specialized process that takes into consideration the reality
of the mind being a robotic learning machine. This is especially useful for people
who are not reasonably suggestible, but are “thinkers” or analytical types. The
conscious analytical mind can get in the way of the ability/willingness to move
into trance or receptive state. NLP tools and strategies do not require true
In order to
cement change we need to bring cellular memory into the equation. This simply
means that we must actively participate in our transformation rather then sit
passively accepting suggestions (recliner approach). This active participation
creates a deliberate, specific blueprint for the stubborn subconscious mind.
Through the principles of learning and active engagement, new ways of being,
consistent with a healthier self-image, become second nature.
Remember that we
do not out perform our self image. However, the working of our subconscious mind does not need to be mystical or feel out of
our reach. Rather, a little additional effort, beyond a traditional recliner
approach, allows us to program a self-image that is consistent with our goals
Aversion programming is the process of incrementally pairing
a new stimulus with an undesirable behavior. Creating a strong feeling of
disgust with an action is simply another method for reducing or eliminating a
behavior that no longer serves us.
Since most damaging behavior is learned (we are not born
with it), we can unlearn it.
Behaviors that get in the way of us reaching our potential
and achieving our goals have become automatic paths of least resistance absorbed
and accepted by the subconscious mind (see above). By matching a strong uncomfortable
emotion or sensation with an old trigger we can begin to alter outcomes.
Aversion programming does not address underlying beliefs and
is not primarily aimed at creating a healthier identity, as is solution focused
programming options. Its sole focus is to stop an unwanted behavior. Therefore,
a combination of both programming options should be considered.