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CHOOSING PROGRESS OVER COMPLACENCY

Choosing progress over complacency.

P.S. If you are a paid subscriber you will have received a PDF download expanding on this audiopost by offering a written assignment that incorporates concepts from the short complimentary “Self-Discovery Confidence Building Workbook” & the more comprehensive “Becoming the CEO of Your Personal & Professional Life Workbook.” Please be certain to complete that. I look forward to offering you new tools, ideas and strategies next Thursday.

I want to share some thoughts with you around the benefits of “negative” thinking and choosing progress over complacency. I’ve ended the article with a few questions for you. I hope that you will set some time aside to consider them. 

I’ve come to believe that, while positive thinking has its place and can feel good, “negative” thinking does a better job of helping us face reality. A little focused exploration of what is not going well for us can be useful. We often need a little “negative reality check” to get us moving in a new direction. The truth is that when we start consciously making new decisions and taking better actions, we empower ourselves to become the confident CEO of our lives. 

When we live outside of our potential, we let ourselves and others down. This is an extremely heavy burden to carry isn’t it? To cope, we numb the pain of our failures in a multitude of ways. 

As human being we work hard to avoid pain. We can be very creative at setting up ways of being that allow us to distance ourselves from the truth of our inadequacies. Stubbornly holding onto positive thinking is a common strategy. Ultimately, this ensures that our tomorrow will not be any different then our today is. 

We think that “someday” things will change. Every now and then we take a half-hearted stab at trying something new. Then, we end up back in the same old dissatisfied place. We may offer ourselves trite positive thinking platitudes to reduce the pain that comes with our lack of progress. But the truth is that things do not “always work out” and things are not “as they are meant to be” and we do not “attract” good things into our lives by simply being positive.   

There are no do-overs. Time will continue to march on whether or not we decide to choose progress over complacency. Our greatest commodity is our time. Yet, every day it is slipping away from us. The old adage that “if you don’t know where you are going any road  will lead you there” is apt. Even more significant is that the fact that… the longer we aimlessly travel down the wrong road, positively hoping that something with change, the harder it becomes to take a new turn.  

It is true that we all have challenges. We can convince ourselves that we are no worse off then others within our circle of influence. This is a form of warped positive thinking. There is some comfort in identifying ourselves with the masses. It allows us to excuse our lack of progress. However, having chronic problems does not put us in a very exclusive club does it?        

We cannot create something better for ourselves unless we first wake up. We need to take stock of where we are, even when this feels like “negative” thinking. This can be hard to do when we have lulled ourselves into complacency and developed ways of being that numb the pain of our failures.  

Before we can create a compelling vision of the future and begin setting realistic goals, we must be willing to question whether positive thinking is keeping us stuck. We need to have a hard look at ourselves. As I discuss in the complimentary workbook, we need to be honest about where we are in order to close the gap. Only then can we decide whether we are motivated enough to create something better.  

Time will continue to pass by whether or not we commit to choosing progress over complacency. And eventually the time will come, for all of us, when we will look back at our lives and ask “did I fulfill my potential?” There will be no do-overs.  

Stubbornly holding on to “positive thinking” can create huge obstacles to progress. It can cause us to see our lives through rose colored glasses that warp reality. A solution focused life begins with an honest assessment of where we are now. This can be painful. However, we cannot chart a new course without taking those rose-colored glasses off. 

I want to be clear that a “negative reality check” is not an excuse to dip into despondency, rather it is a launching pad for what else is possible for us. Creating  something better for ourselves begins with an honest assessment of where we are. Glossing over reality with positive thinking can result in staying stuck over the long haul.

Questions to consider:

1.  Has positive thinking kept you from honestly assessing your life?

2.  Has positive thinking resulted in you becoming complacent?

3.  What could be different for you if you chose progress over complacency?

4. What does any of this have to do with building self-confidence and a greater belief in ourselves?

P.S. If you are a paid subscriber you will have received a PDF download expanding on this audiopost by offering a written assignment that incorporates concepts from the short complimentary “Self-Discovery Confidence Building Workbook” & the more comprehensive “Becoming the CEO of Your Personal & Professional Life Workbook.” Please be certain to complete that. I look forward to offering you new tools, ideas and strategies next Thursday.

Enjoy the learning!

Terri Lee Cooper MSc. RSW


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